Five Reasons You Don't Want to Be in a Relationship

Five Reasons You Don’t Want to be in a Relationship

Being in a relationship is what we young people find ourselves craving for. Even the heart broken people who go around saying relationship is a scam and are avoiding another breakfast, still want a better relationship. In this article, I bring to you a few reasons you should not want a  relationship.

Having another person to do life with is something beautiful but it becomes absolutely frustrating when some things are not first put in check. This is the gap I intend to fill here.

1. You Don't Know Yourself Yet.

If you were asked; who are you?” you’d probably say "You are a chosen generation, or even talk about your background and family members. But who really are you? You really do not want to be in another person’s life when you haven't understood yourself to a good extent. When I was about fourteen years old, that stage of puberty as an adolescent where you just want to carry out adulthood adventures.

As a younger Girls who was just experiencing puberty, you just wanted your  breasts and bum to appear bigger so as to feel like the most endowed. They also want to apply some make up. As a guy, you took pleasure in your deep voice and widening chest. You just wanted to take charge of your life but the adults won't mind their business and leave us alone. 

Interestingly, I became that stubborn child who wanted to always have her way. I told my mom, I was going to have a boyfriend at age 18 and no one was stopping me. If you wish to know how this scenario ended, send me a direct mail!

So back to the point, know yourself. What is your temperament composition? Choleric? Sanguine? Phlegmatic? or Melancholic? What are your interests in life? What are your life’s principles? What direction are you heading to? What difference do you want to make here on earth? Are you confident enough? Can you hold your head up high to make other people understand your point of view in certain circumstances? What past do you have to heal from? How disciplined are you? This is just to mention but a view. When you have first known certain things about yourself, then you can let another person into your life.

2. What Do You Have to Offer?

Well, there are different reasons for entering into a relationship. When one party keeps taking all the responsibilities then it's a red light. A party shouldn't bear  all the financial, emotional and, social responsibility then . There should be a total agreement to shared responsibility.

Every reasonable human loves value and all have this selfish nature. When it seems like you are adding no value and he/she is always giving and giving you, it becomes tiring. So, add value to yourself first. What is your measure of emotional intelligence? How well can you express yourself? What impact are you ready to make? Are you more of a liability than an asset? If you do not want to be dumped soon, bring something to the table. Make something great out of yourself so when pairing up with your significant other, it would be a good combination.

3. Being in a  Relationship isn’t a Poverty Alleviation Scheme

Should Your partner suddenly become God who caters for all your needs?. Those hands and beautiful body of yours were created for a reason. Only if you knew. There is a lot you can make out of yourself. Figure out the things you can do, the skills you have that would make you an asset to your partner. 

This is why you should have worked yourself up to a good extent so another person who has been working can come in. It would sure be a good blend. Just like Apple and pineapple mixed together to make a juice! 

Some people cannot even subscribe for themselves! Heal from your  past so you do not bleed on your partner. You do not have to necessarily figure it all out first. In fact, you need someone to pull through with. The point is, know what you want and what you want to do, and then continue with someone on that journey. 

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