Five Reasons You Do Not Want to Be in a Relationship || Part 2

August 18, 2021

Five Reasons You Do Not Want to Be in a Relationship || Part 2

Okay so, about 24 hours ago, I published an article here and I promised to release the fourth and fifth reason. So many of us sent a direct message to me which really inspired me to publish the other part of this article.

Before we go into it, a lot of us asked about my mom’s reaction when I told her I was going to have boyfriend at the age of 18. Of course she was very astounded and couldn’t say much for a moment. We were both in the kitchen that day when I said it calmly. After a few hours, she started scolding me, reported me to my dad when he got back from work. Daddy has always been this cool man. He quietly sat me down and tried to make me understand that there was more to life. Mom’s most times used the “indaboski” method while dad was most times really calm.

So yes, you have it! I present to you the fourth and fifth reason;

4. Have you first dated yourself?

After some people have eaten breakfast, the reason they feel lonely is not just because of the attachment they built with their partner overtime, but because they aren’t comfortable with themselves. You have to first learn to be happy on your own to a good extent. So what do you do while dating yourself? Those in a relationship most times long to see each other, share good moments, and always think about each other. They just want to proffer the five love languages (Quality time, Acts of services, Physical touch, Words of affirmation, Giving gifts). Give yourself these affections too.

How do some people do it? They live like their life depends on their partner. They don’t mind talking to him/her for 24 hours round the clock. I would personally call this “Obsession”. I mean, there are other parts and areas of your life that needs your attention. Your academics, friends, spiritual and most importantly, dating yourself. What are your emotional triggers? What makes you uncomfortable? What are those secret feelings you have been ignoring for a while? Make yourself happy. dig up ugly feelings that could possibly impede your happy future.

Love yourself; buy new clothes, go out with friends that matter, read a book, set more goals; reward yourself when you achieve them, correct yourself for the mistakes you have made and then, move on. Always remember that you are responsible for your happiness. Sort yourself first, before allowing another human into your life.

· 5. How Do You Know You Are Ready?

Phew! How can you figure out your level of preparedness? Do you just suddenly make up your mind in an instant and then be like “Okay, I need to get me a girlfriend/boyfriend” Do you recall our first reason of not being in a relationship? What was the second, third and fourth one again? When you have been able to figure them out to a very reasonable extent, then you are kinda ready.

My dream as a writer has always been to successfully communicate with my readers. I really hope you got something from your read so far. If yes, kindly send me a direct message or drop a comment here. I’ll definitely respond!